It means you can do whatever you want, whenever you want, in whatever public place you want, as long as you don’t fall in love.
That's how I define No Strings Attached.
I describe it as more-than-friends-less-than-lovers-and-no-commitment-type of relationship. You're happy to be with each other. You share the same passion. You like the same things. But you can't take you're special relationship to the next level. You only like each other but not love each other. There should be no feelings involved. No strings attached.
It's hard. It's painful. Especially if the other person has already invested feelings for the other one. And its more painful to know that that other one can't love you back. So, you just keep the love burning inside of you. Hide it if you must. You can still love that person, only from afar.
What's makes it difficult for this kind of set up is that you can't question that person should he/she make his/her own choices, with or without you knowing it. You have no right. You are only his/her friend and still has no right with his/her own decisions. You maybe sharing mutual feelings but you've also agreed not to take it seriously.
In the end, you're the one left suffering. For you've expected much. You've assumed much.
The only best way I could think of for you not suffer this much is to not letting yourself get involve in this kind of relationship. Avoid it if possible. For it won't do you any good. The love you're feeling might only last for a couple of days, weeks or months. And it's hard to get back from where you came from. It will be hard for you to bring back the old set up you two has established.
I am not in favor with this kind of set up. I'm not gonna invest my feelings to someone whom I know can't love me back. We'd rather keep what we already have as of now instead of nurturing the feelings. And I'm not gonna nurse whatever feelings that person is going to show on me. Nursing the feeling would eventually leave me hurting.
akala ko review toh dun sa movie na no strings attached.. ako din ayuko din..tama ka.. bakit mag-iinvest sa bagay na wala naman mangyayari in the end...
ReplyDeleteActually, mejo base din ito dun sa movie (kahit di ko pa sya napapanood, nabasa ko lang ung mga reviews).. hirap siguro ng nasa ganitong sitwasyon.. wala kang pinanghahawakan!
ReplyDeletebasta--always make sure that when you love, dika lugi---you just give the spare that you have, if you dont have it---wag na. kawawa ka lang
ReplyDeleteyep, but most often than not, sa mga nagmamahal, we tend to give it all. kahit ung spare. so much love, so much pain.
ReplyDeletethanks for the comment pusang kalye! appreciate it much!